25 years later I still get no peace! Still working my tush off, getting nickle and dime-ed to death except it's more like $10's and 20's now! I guess now that my baby is 18 I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, and it's been a long tunnel indeed a quarter of a Century!
Of course now that it's here and done I can't change anything, but I have to wonder who says if you're born a female one MUST marry and have kids? I'm sure if I was unable to have children I'd be sad sad sad... but then knowing me I tend to make the best of the situation and I'd probably do really cool stuff.
I have made mental notes of what would I do if I never had any kids:
1- Live in a trendy, hip loft in San Francisco and do art, and cool stuff all day
2- Travel, travel travel!
3- Get a PH.D...just take class after class after class and be super smart!
4- Date and have boyfriends, but don't get tied down to just one, have a flock of them, one for formal occasions, one for causal stuff... you get the idea.
5 Start my own business, and get rich doing what I want, instead of what's good for the family and work whenever I want, instead of always taking the " early bird " shift!
I could go on and on..... but I choose to get married, have 2 kids, and work awfully hard doing it alone as after divorcing and 13 years of marriage, I knew I didn't want to do that again!
My advice to a young girl today would be, wait till your about 30 years old to marry and start a family, don't feel pressure by family or friends who are marrying in droves. Happily ever after doesn't exist in marriage it's an illusion to get you to do it. Marriage is very hard work, sacrifice, and compromise. If your not good at all those things it may not be for you. Women tend to do most of of the sacrificing in the marriage. Men seem to benefit more from it than women do. It's hard to handle, and not for the weak either. If you are headed down the alter..... well .....Best of Luck to ya!
You're gonna need it!
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