This happens a lot with stay at home moms. I think most people prefer working, it's fun to get paid actual cash money for the job you do. It's nice to work with people your age, to have a set schedule, and a set of tasks that need to be completed and praise for a job well done. But.... if you choose to marry, have kids and stay at home with those kids, you should embrace it and do it with passion and creativity!
I've done both, I used to work part-time 5AM to 10AM so I had all day with my rug rats. I'd get up at 4:00 AM prepare for work get home and begin fixing lunch. Then the hubby would go off to work after lunch, and I had all afternoon and evening to do the at home mom thing. I'd take the kids to the park, swing on the swings, play out in the yard, we built a small garden to play around in, I made them a sandbox. In the afternoon I'd get really tired, so I'd take a quick power nap while the kids watched cartoons or kiddo shows just on the couch with them but they were distracted by the tv for a minute so I'd try to catch a couple Zzz's.
I was ALWAYS exhausted! Being the trooper that I am I'd power through my days, knowing that I'd catch up on sleep Saturday's and Sunday's. The kids liked to sleep in and were usually just waking up when I'd walk in the door at 10AM! Ex hubby trained them well. No matter what the day brought, I'd always get the house picked up by bedtime, kitchen cleaned, floors mopped and shined, and everything tidied up before I'd go to bed. The only time I'd let the housework, laundry or yard-work slide.. is if I was sick on my death bead, then the VCR was playing Barney all day long, while I'd go in and out of a coma sleep only waking if a munchkin was poking me for food or something.
My ex hubby was very little help around the house, I did 95% of it, even after going back to work full time with day care and all. He'd change the occasional diaper, and mow the grass when I'd start nagging about how long it was getting, but that's about it. He would entertain the kids, so I could do all the housework. That's about all he was good for, which is why we're divorced. I used to fantasize about a " hands on Dad" going to school functions with me, and picking up the house because he would want it clean as much as I did. What would that be like? Hell or just a guy who liked to work and made a good living so I could stay home full-time! What would that be like? I'll probably never know!! I know for a fact in our almost 13 years of marriage that guy never once bathed a kid, or cleaned a toilet or bathtub! He'd do the dishes when I nagged him to, and once he mopped the floor, and did such a piss poor job leaving streaks and a film on it I never asked him again, he must have used an entire bottle of pinesol or something!
I've always done it all, worked and took care of my house, I've been a single mom for over 25 years ( I say that because living with the ex was practically like being single) It's a time consuming thing, and I've moved from exhausted to just tired. There are days when stuff just doesn't get done, laundry piling up, rings around the bathtub, and stuff that needs to be fixed.... I'll get to it when I get too it! I'm not going to stress out about it. There are just not enough hours in a day, and I do like to have a bit of R&R after work sometimes! Nothing wrong with that.
So back to my point about the stay at home blogger, quit complaining, try doing it all with out a husband, and two rowdy boys! I'd kill to have had the opportunity to be a FULL TIME stay at home mommy, I'd do all kinds of fun stuff with the kiddo's, but not my path in life .....it is what it is
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